Genealogy.... can't live with out it?

This is my Father's pedigree chart, as summited many years ago, by my Mother. My Mother worked very hard on this, but was way off because it seems, no one in this Smith family line (were you should always start, with the living ancestors) know of, or cared about there family history. Pedigree Chart

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							4	Byron SMITH B: < 1869
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			2	Joseph Raymond SMITH B: 18 Jul 1895 Webster City, Hamilton, Iowa M: 1 Dec 1915 Des Moines, Polk, Iowa
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							5	Margaret VOYLE B: < 1871
1	Richard Byron SMITH B: 11 Sep 1924 Des Moines, Pottawatamie, Iowa D: 17 Feb 1975 Santa Ana, Orange, California										11
				Family Living							12
							6	Alexander BLACKFORD B: < 1866
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			3	Family Hazel Irene BLACKFORD B: 26 Sep 1892 Omaha, Douglas, Nebraska D: 3 Oct 1953 Des Moines, Polk, Iowa
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							7	Leah BRUTSMAN B: < 1868
				If you want to know what needs to be changed, on this chart, e-mail me and I will give you changes.							15
				When it comes to genealogy ever body seems to fall into one of three camps.

1-Can't get enough 2-Could care less 3-Just hearing the word, genealogy, is like dropping a f-bomb, in Church. I think that I am a solid 2, unless, I hear the "g-talk" (like last Sunday, in a Stake Priesthood meeting) in Church and think "maybe I should be a little less like my ancestors, who could care less". Seems that I can be guilty of the same things I like to complain about. Here is the real reason for this post; The Stake is having a "take your ancestor's to the Temple night" (there words, not mine) were they want you to do Temple work, for your own line of ancestors. In my mind, the names I should be submitting, are those of my Grandfather and Grandmother, on my Father's side. It's my Grandfather that is the problem. In the many years that my Mother did true researched and the many years that I dabbled, I can not resolve if my Grandfathers name is Joseph Raymond Smith or Raymond Joseph Smith. The scale teeters back and forth. I found his parents on a 1895 Iowa census (the year he was born) with the words "baby, unknown" (as in unnamed). Then in 1900, as Raymond Joseph, on the US census.

You would think that, that would be enough, to stick with R.J., but my uncle Ray (yah, you guessed it, Raymond Joseph Smith), insisted that his name was J.R. and that he choose to be called Ray, because Joseph Smith was a very unpopular name, in Iowa, at that time. To add a little more spice to the mystery, The 1900 census doesn't show what happened to my great Grandfather, John B. Smith (the pedigree chart above has his name as Byron Smith. Could that mean they like to be called by there middle name?). John B. was 47 years old when my Grandfather was born and could have passed on from natural causes, by the time the 1900 census was taken, for all we know. Anyway, we know he wasn't there to defend the name. I have not found a birth certificate and because my Grandfather just up and left home, when my father was young, we do not know when or were he passed away. Add the fact that the last name is Smith and I think you can see, I have a real problem. So this is me, pleading for insight. It could be that I am just over thinking the problem, or that I just want there to be a connection to Joseph Smith, the Prophet (the more I look, the less likely there is a connection), or maybe it really doesn't matter. Please help me out and leave a comment, even if you don't know me, so I can un-stick my train of thought. Thanks for your help, in advance, Boyd